Here’s the basic set up:
• Every 2 weeks, you’ll meet up with your Home Team. (You and your team get to decide much of the details of your check-ins based on your own schedules. This small group cohort of 3-5 people will stick with you throughout your journey, creating accountability and companionship.) 30
• Each month for 2021, you’ll be paired up with an inquiry partner. (You and your partner get to decide, based on your own schedules and interest, whether you’re doing The Work together every week to every day!) 30
• We’ll have a private online platform on Mighty Networks for staying in touch with fellow participants in the program. (This platform will be moderated and facilitated by myself and some support staff who will also be participating in the program.) 60
• There will be a monthly theme to encourage introspection and provide tips for finding our freedom! (At the start of each month, I’ll put out a video orientation to the focus of the upcoming month, including supportive guided meditations on the theme.) 120
• The monthly theme will be based on chapters from Byron Katie’s book Loving What Is. (And there will be optional book study to follow along with the year-long journey.) 0
• There will be twice monthly optional group support Zoom calls. (These calls will be a place for Q&A and I’ll also be available to facilitate participants who would like that kind of support. These will be recorded and shared with the group on the Discord platform. If there’s no content brought by participants to the calls, I’ll have deepening exercises available for us to engage in together.) 120
• The invitation is to also stay active in tracking yourself. (As Katie says, “put the mind on paper, then you can see it in front of you.” One specific recommendation is filling out Judge Your Neighbor (JYN) worksheets on the regular, and then bringing them to sessions with your monthly inquiry partner, the group support Zoom calls, or the online platform.) 0
• Our final 2 months together there will be an optional daily inquiry jam. (The invitation will be to “Do The Work for Breakfast.” Begin each day with a focus on living the question mark. This practice
• Each Abiding participant is welcome to engage the material at their own level of comfort, safety, experience, and interest. (Sometimes we inquire on the everyday things simply to keep our lives rolling along smoothly and happily. And sometimes we go in deep, dissolving identities and discovering powerful freedom. Both (and in between) are welcome here. Utilize The Work to meet you exactly where you are.) 0
• Finally, each participant in the Abiding in the Heart program gets 2 one-on-one sessions with me to schedule during the first half of the year. (There are also optional monthly sessions at a special participant rate. $100-180 sliding scale per session. 10% discount [$90 rate available] if you book 8 or more.) 400
$2400 is the full price for all of these offerings.
There is also a sliding scale option $2400 – $1200.
Monthly payments is an option.
And full and partial scholarships are available. Don’t hesitate to reach out if you want to join and your finances present a barrier.
Link to Google scholarship form
Descriptions by month:
January: Introduction to The Work and Abiding Orientation.
We learn about the Judge Your Neighbor (JYN) worksheet and about starting from where we are.
We find and write about the stressful stories right in front of us, and begin to inquire.
“If you try to do The Work in your head, without putting your thoughts on paper, the mind will outsmart you.” – Byron Katie
Please note that there is required attendance to the Zoom welcome party this month.
This is the only month where attendance to a group call is not optional.
Optional reading for Month 1: Loving What Is – Intro and Chapter 1: A Few Basic Principles.
February: What do I complain about?
We continue covering the basics of inquiry this month.
And we go through the exercise of looking at what we complain about from the small and petty to the constant irritations.
We take these lists to inquiry, learning about the mind’s capacity to compare and complain.
Optional reading for Month 2: Loving What Is – Chapter 2: The Great Undoing.
March: Our formative years.
This month our focus is on writing honestly about our parents, siblings, relatives,
and people who influenced us when we were children.
There are so many things we have been told, and we have believed.
When we know how, we can go back and check. Is that true for me?
Optional reading for Month 3: Loving What Is – Chapters 3 and half of 4: Entering the Dialogues. Couples and Family Life.
April: There’s room for everything.
We turn our lens to “negative emotions.”
This can ripple back to childhood when many of us were taught to ignore or change those emotions.
We begin to discover together how, in reality, there’s room for everything just the way it is.
And this supports us to look into: What do I exclude? What do I resist?
Optional reading for Month 4: Loving What Is – Complete chapter 4: Couples and Family Life.
May: Relating with others.
We’re invited to look into how we relate romantically, sexually, in friendships, and in any other way with our fellow human beings.
Where am I open and loving? Where am I closed and distrustful? How do I want to be seen?
As always, choose your own adventure: Identify small annoyances, or the big ones.
Through inquiry, both offer a gateway to the heart.
Optional reading for Month 5: Loving What Is – Chapter 5: Deepening Inquiry.
June: Money, career, and the future.
So often we use money and our work to shape how we want to be seen, secure, and safe in the future.
We focus this month on questioning our thinking about not having enough,
needing more, and how we actually get to where we want to be.
Optional reading for Month 6: Loving What Is – Chapter 6: On Work and Money.
Who is it that you think you should be? What do you not live up to?
They say that we’re our own worst critics.
So, who is this “me” I compare myself to?
Could it be that this “me” I judge is not more personal than judging everyone else has turned out to be?
Optional reading for Month 7: Loving What Is – Chapters 7 and 8: Self-Judgments & The Work with Children.
August: Living Turnarounds and Prescription for Happiness
This month we look more closely at our specific advice for others,
uncovering therein hidden gems that can guide our own lives.
We get clear on the advice that we’ve been giving to others. And then we ask:
Could it be that, if I follow that advice myself, it will give me the peace and happiness I was looking for “out there”?
Optional reading for Month 8: Loving What Is – Chapters 9 and 10: Underlying Beliefs & Doing The Work on Any Thought or Situation.
September: Judging the body.
Katie says, “Bodies don’t think, care, or have any problem with themselves.”
This month, we look at our apparent flaws in health and appearance,
and how we live when we believe that our bodies should be different.
It’s possible that we can begin to find the innocence of the bodies we live in.
Optional reading for Month 9: Loving What Is – Chapter 11: The Body and Addictions.
October: The Worst That Can Happen.
Living with unquestioned thoughts of the future can have drastic impacts on our well-being in the moment.
As Katie puts it, “If you want a little fear and terror, get a future.”
This month, as we turn our attention to situations that upset us,
we look specifically to our fears of the future, to what we’re afraid will happen.
Optional reading for Month 10: Loving What Is – Half of Chapter 12: Making Friends with the Worst That Can Happen.
November: The Don’t-Know Mind.
This month we sit with letting the places where we don’t know.
This year, in checking to see what we can and cannot absolutely know to be true,
our minds have likely opened up to a new relationship of not knowing.
This month we focus on what that means, and how to navigate through life, possibly without knowing anything for sure.
Optional daily inquiry jam during months 11 and 12.
Optional reading for Month 11: Loving What Is – Complete Chapter 12.
December: Graduation! (And optionally prepare to begin again in January.)
As we move towards finishing up this year of inquiry, and potentially “going our separate ways,”, we look at our apparent separation.
It’s easy to assume that there is a “me” and an “everything else.”
But can we actually know that for sure? What can you verify from your own direct experience?
The idea of separation is often called the root of suffering. Could it be there is only one awareness, one body, and one mind?
Optional daily inquiry jam during months 11 and 12.
Optional reading for Month 11: Loving What Is – Complete Chapters 13 and 14: Questions and Answers & The Work in Your Life.
I am calling the year-long program Abiding in the Heart. Abiding as both a verb and an adjective.
verb – We are making the conscious choice of abiding in the practice of inquiry. Stay with the question mark. Keep it close. Let it inform you more and more.
Synonyms: To stay. To continue. To persevere.
adjective – What we discover as we stay in inquiry is the dissolving of the illusion and the radiant glow of the abiding mystical truths. What is impermanent is the temporary, the illusory. What stays is real.
Synonyms: Stable. Secure. Eternal.
There are a lot of pieces to Abiding, to keep it fresh and flexible.
Some of those pieces are optional.
And there are some that I would like participants to agree to.
List of program agreements
1) WRITE your worksheets. Abiding participants are asked to hold at least 1 JYN meditation and fill in at least 1 JYN per week. (At least 15 minutes per week.)
2) PARTNER UP and inquire. Please spend at least an hour a week in inquiry, whether as client or facilitator. Between 1-4 hours each week is recommended. (30 minutes to 2 hours in each role per week.) And there’s always the option to do more. Some partners may even wish to inquire every day! (At least 1 hour per week.)
3) JOIN your Home Team meet ups twice per month. (At least 1 hour per month.)
4) FOLLOW the curriculum by watching the monthly theme videos so we’re all up-to-date and participating in the same program.
5) ENGAGE in inquiry and be ready to learn, refine, and improve your facilitation and personal inquiry.
6) LEAN IN, connect, and be authentic with your Home Team and other fellow participants.
7) HONOR one another’s personal work, and hold content shared within the container of Abiding confidentially.
8) I need a 12-month commitment for financial purposes. The first 2 months are a trial. After that, you agree to pay full tuition as I won’t be able to replace you.
January 4th 2021 – December 15th 2021
Live informational sessions will be offered by BJ in November and December 2020.
Group Zoom calls: 2 optional sessions per month
1st Tuesday of the month 9:00-10:30 am ET
3rd Thursday of the month 1–2:30 ET
You are welcome to join any or all of the Group Zoom calls. All are recorded and available for later viewing for Abiding participants.
(3 optional hours per month.)
Home teams: 2 check-ins per month
These small group teams stay the same throughout the full year and are a way to track your own progress and journey, as well as that of your team. It’s a way to deeply understand and be understood. Share insights, highlights, and in general to share the journey. These calls are recommended to last between half an hour to an hour each time.
(1 hour+ per month.)
Partnering: Once a week or more
Participants are paired rotationally every month. Trading facilitation offers deep immersion in The Work and dynamic feedback from peers.
Partnering is flexibly scheduled by times that work best for you and your partner. Each participant is requested to spend at least a half hour per week as both client and as facilitator of inquiry.
(1 hour+ per week.)
The minimum requested time and attention put towards this course is about 5 hours per month.
The journey and practice of self-inquiry using The Work of Byron Katie is a crystal clear way to bring awareness and self-realization to life.
And like other practices (meditation, health, exercise, living authentically, for example) we find ourselves not sitting still with focused intention to DO The Work. It seems simple, yet somehow difficult.
Doing The Work is not easy to accomplish all alone. Driving in your car finding turnarounds to stressful thoughts doesn’t generally offer the clear picture of a thoroughly investigated stressful belief. No wonder we’re frustrated, or wondering what we’re missing, or find that we’re doing The Work on the same person or situation over and over again.
There are “best practices” and distinctions offered regularly by Byron Katie and discovered by people who practice The Work as a way of life. These ways of following the simple directions blossom more and more clearly for us in a unique way, our personal process taking the time it takes. There are gentle invitations to follow that can make The Work….work. You are your own teacher in the end, and the people who have gone before (or along with you) have brilliant insights we can turn to and apply.
We gather together so we’re not in isolation. We hear other members’ inquiry, and learn from them.
Ultimately self-inquiry is about you knowing you. And the more we meet ourselves with true understanding, the more we love what we find.
Have you been wondering how to take The Work into your daily life practice? Do you find you’re drawn to this inquiry, but not sure how to keep it alive in your mind and in your relationships? Are you looking for a regular circle with whom to do inquiry over time, connecting with others on the same adventure? We’re about to take a fabulous journey: A whole year together in a small group practicing the gift of inquiry. For 12 full months, you’ll have the choice of 9 scheduled Zoom calls every month (5 days a week during the summer) plus 2 in-person retreats (optional).
All in a kind, inclusive and safe container of fellow inquirers, any level welcome.
You can choose how many Zoom calls you want to attend live. Everything is recorded and available all year to listen to. Some people decide to attend one session a week live, some, all the sessions. You can mix and match your schedule as it changes over time.
Some call what we’re forming a sangha, a Sanskrit term for those in spiritual community. You will create deep connections with people who hold one common intention: seeing Reality with clarity. We will share together our most petty, difficult, troubling thoughts in an atmosphere of compassion and honesty (and sometimes big belly laughs of humor).
Why a whole year?
Because personal transformation appears to take practice, and time.
Each month we identify and then question stressful thoughts about a new topic. We build on the foundation of our questioned beliefs as we move through the year, learning and investigating together.
For every single month-long topic, we’ll have a group webinar call where you will watch a video slide presentation before we begin the month of how this topic has been approached by others doing The Work, including Katie. All video orientations to each month will be released before our month together begins and you can watch it on your own time or join live and ask questions.
Here’s the full list of offerings included with Abiding.
*Zoom calls (Tuesdays 8:30 am PT, Wednesdays 2 pm, Thursdays 5 pm) Anyone enrolled is invited to attend any scheduled call. There are five 6- week courses to choose from during the year.
*Monthly Video (each month, you’ll join a webinar to begin the month (all webinars will be recorded). These webinars will address our topic for The Work, and always include explorations of Best Practices in The Work in our lives. We’ll look at the Principles for Facilitators, the Code of Ethics, and identify what gets in the way of holding these.
*Partnering In The Work Everyone in Abiding is invited to join a monthly partner work with other participants. You may choose to partner only once a month or partner in depth. A beautiful place for connecting with others to inquire and share at the most honest level. For this deep immersion in partner work, you schedule with your partner independently. You will have a different partner every month, for 12 months.
*Solo Sessions With BJ. Everyone participating in Abiding has 2 individual calls with BJ during the year, scheduled when you wish, to be completed by December 15th, 2021. You’re also welcome to schedule an additional 10 sessions (making it 12 for the year, recommended about one per month) at the special Abiding rate of $90 per session.
*Summer Camp for The Mind
. Daily calls to do The Work July-August 2018. Everyone is automatically included in this Summer Camp daily Inquiry Jam.
*Private Forum on Mighty Networks just for Abiding in the Heart participants. We will
use Mighty Networks as our forum for all course communications. All
our recordings, shares, follow-ups, worksheets, photos,
and videos on The Work are kept all year, and beyond.??
You will be able to download the little app on your phone, and on your computer, without it interfering with any of your other online work. A fantastic way to take inquiry
on the go and have access to everyone in the community. Training will be provided during Orientation on how to very simply access and set yourself up in our forum.
+ Required for participation:
– Partner work. Weekly. Change partners every month.
– Work on active material in your life. Identify the problems in your life and inquire about them. This can look like: Writing a fresh JYN for each partner homework session, if not multiple worksheets per week. Or it could also be sticking with a worksheet for several rounds of inquiry until you feel relaxed and resolved and clear on that moment in time.
– Home Teams. Each participant is placed in a small group team who meets every 2 weeks. (2nd and 4th week of the month.) Creates intimacy and a form of tracking one another through the journey.
– Online platform for connecting with fellow participants.
– Monthly video orientation to the focus of the upcoming month.
+ Additional optional pieces to the Abiding journey:
– Book reading and study.
– Twice monthly 90 minute Zoom calls.
– Optional monthly one-on-one sessions at a special $90 Abiding rate.
+ Support for your personal deepening into inquiry.
+ A regular dropping into self-inquiry is super beneficial for finding stability of personal integrity and thus radiating essence.
+ Engage with a community of dedicated seekers. Find companionship and shared reality for the journey of self-discovery.
About me and what I do
My name is BJ Harden Jones. I am a cultural catalyst, peace worker, consciousness evolutionary, truth teller, philosopher, mystic, loving presence, community co-founder and pillar, rad mama and partner, totally fallible human, and the heart behind Step Into Truth: my platform for supporting others (and myself!) in finding the end of suffering.
I am a devoted facilitator and practitioner of The Work of Byron Katie. For more than a decade, I’ve been utilizing this self-inquiry process in my own life and sharing its magic with others. As a member of the Institute for The Work (ITW) and a participant in the Certification Program, I continue to deepen into my own self-understanding and self-realization.
Through both the blessing and the cultivation of an open heart and mind, I have learned so much about the nature of reality and how to live in alignment with what is. I feel so honored and fortuitous to be in the position of sharing what I find, and helping myself and others shine with the joy of a life well-lived.
BJ, you have something simple and elegant and deeply powerful to offer. The way in which you sit with people is kind, caring and brave. Having you as a partner on any journey is a gift I would recommend anyone give to themself.
– SM, Minneapolis MN
“I so celebrate the deep presence, sensitivity and care with which BJ moves in the world. Through a profound sensing, listening, and speaking to the underlying truth of the moment, she offers a rare form of support to people’s realization and development. Her way of being helps reveal the wonder and beauty all around us: in the world, in each individual, and in each moment. BJ’s presence is a gift which she gives generously.” – KS, Portland OR
BJ’s style embodies patience, neutrality and awareness. She has an open, playful presence that invites and celebrates safety and trust. I have worked by phone and in person with her, and both experiences have been equally powerful.” – CC, Asheville NC
“BJ helped me shine light on some of the darker parts of my psyche, and began a journey that brought me into greater integrity in my intimate relationship. She is comfortable with the full range of the human soul, and lets her intuition guide her to places of insight and deepened connection. I’m grateful that I get to walk this planet with such a compassionate, self-connected, playful human being!” – HK, Seattle WA
Sometimes BJ causes me to ask important questions I would have never thought to ask. Questions that result in me rethinking my life’s direction and my vocation. That quest she launched me on helped me move to a much more life-giving way of working that is having a much bigger and more positive impact on the world. -KJ (my DAD!), Swannanoa NC
If I could put a word or two with you it would be courage / love. The day we walked through the gates of the prison school for boys – boys that some would say were very bad, tough, and not to be trusted boys – and I looked over at you and all I could feel was the love you had for each one. WOW! It just all went into that eternal space for me. Not a single thing to fear. I do not think I will ever forget that BJ. (Just thinking and writing and reading this gives me goosebumps.) -KT, Saluda NC
There are few teachings more important than ‘everything’s OK,’ and few teachers who get that, give it, and live it, day to day. Recommending BJ is like handing you a flower: I think you’ll see why right away.” – AM, Asheville NC
To register visit this link and scroll to the payment options at the end of the page (you do not need to use paypal, you may use any card):
Anywhere! From your device or personal computer.
$3200 for FULL PROGRAM paid in full by September 1st, 2017
OR $285 per month for 12 months.
FULL PROGRAM includes access to all Zoom calls, monthly webinars, two Seattle retreats, solo sessions, Summer Camp for The Mind 2018, in-person monthly optional Living Turnarounds group. Anyone who enrolled in these programs separately would pay over $4000. Being a part of Abiding brings you a huge discount for ongoing, connected inquiry with a lovely community of people for a whole year.
Retreats individually = $450 per retreat tuition. Anyone who has opted out of retreats can change their mind and attend if there is room and they register to hold a spot. Alumni always get $100 gift off of retreat fees for life.
In-Person Monthly Deep Divers Living Turnarounds Group = Normal fee is $65 per month, but current members who sign up for FULL program who want a spot can attend at no extra cost. It is fully covered in their FULL tuition for the year. (Zoom call Level members please also ask about attending—we’d love to have you if you’re interested and your fee is $35).
LOW RISK offer: Change Happens. You may cancel at the end of sixty days with the following conditions:
a) FULL PROGRAM with EVERYTHING INCLUDED: if you made full payment if you choose to withdraw during September or October you will only pay $100 per month participation. If you decide in the first 30 days it’s not for you…you will receive all but $100 back as a refund. If you decide after September but within 60 days it’s not for you…you will receive all but $200 back as a refund. If you participate in the autumn retreat, the fee for the retreat is $450 and is not a part of the refund policy. We hope this gives you ample time to give it a chance as a practice, and have found people are usually clear with this much space and time to make their decision. On November 1st you make a commitment (it’s difficult to fill your spot).
b) PROGRAM with Zoom call LEVEL: When you make your first month’s payment, if you choose to withdraw from the program (no questions asked) within the first month, then you will receive a refund minus $100 for the first month. If you still continue during the second month, but withdraw before the end of October, then you’ll pay for $200 for the first two months of the program and owe nothing more.
We ask that you make a commitment to the full year on March 1st.
There is no refund after the second month is already completed.
This program is a collaboration between Step Into Truth (my platform for sharing The Work of Byron Katie) and the Temple of the Open Heart (a new, non-profit church organization dedicated to Positive Evolution on the planet.) I’m (respectively) the founder and co-founder of these projects. Abiding in the Heart is their first time overlapping in any official way!