Abiding in Inquiry 2021
1) WRITE your worksheets. Be prepared at each partner homework call and Zoom call with at least 2 completed JYNs that haven’t yet been worked.
2) PARTNER UP and inquire. Please spend at least an hour a week in inquiry, whether as client or facilitator. Between 1-4 hours is recommended. (30 minutes to 2 hours in each role per week.)
5) ENGAGE in inquiry and be ready to learn, refine, and improve your facilitation and personal inquiry.
6) LEAN IN, connect, and be authentic with your Home Team and other fellow participants.
7) HONOR one another’s personal work, and hold content shared within the container of Abiding confidentially.
January 2021 – December 2021
1st Tuesday 9:00-10:30 am ET
3rd Thursday 2-3:30 ET
Partnering is flexibly scheduled by times that work best for you and your partner.
And like other practices (meditation, health, exercise, living authentically, for example) we find ourselves not sitting still with focused intention to DO The Work. It seems simple, yet somehow difficult.
Doing The Work is not easy to accomplish all alone. Driving in your car finding turnarounds to stressful thought doesn’t generally offer a clear picture of a thoroughly investigated stressful belief. No wonder we’re frustrated, or wondering what we’re missing, or find that we’re doing The Work on the same person or situation over and over again.
There are “best practices” and distinctions offered regularly by Byron Katie and discovered by people who practice The Work as a way of life. These ways of following the simple directions blossom more and more clearly for us in a unique way, our personal process taking the time it takes. There are gentle invitations to follow that can make the work….work. You are your own teacher in the end, and, the people who have gone before (or along with you) have brilliant insights we can turn to and apply.
In Year of inquiry….we’re exploring The Work in our lives by doing it 1, 2, 3 times a week (you get to choose).
Ultimately The Work is about you knowing you, and loving what you find.
Have you been wondering how to take The Work into your daily life practice? Do you find you’re drawn to this inquiry, but not sure how to keep it alive in your mind and in your relationships? Are you looking for a regular circle with whom to do inquiry over time, connecting with others on the same adventure?
We’re about to take a fabulous journey: A whole year together in a small group practicing the gift of inquiry. For 12 full months, you’ll have the choice of 9 scheduled telesessions every month (5 days a week during the summer) plus 2 in-person retreats (optional).
You can choose how many telesessions you want to attend live. Everything is recorded and available all year to listen to. Some people decide to attend one session a week live, some, all the sessions. You can mix and match your schedule as it changes over time.
Some call what we’re forming a sangha, a Sanskrit term for those in spiritual community. You will create deep connections with people who hold one common intention: seeing Reality with clarity. We will share together our most petty, difficult, troubling thoughts in an atmosphere of compassion and honesty (and sometimes big belly laughs of humor).
Why a whole year?
Because personal transformation appears to take practice, and time.
(There are members of YOI who have taken it 3 years in a row, it’s a part of their spiritual practice to do The Work).
Each month we identify and then question stressful thoughts about a new topic. We build on the foundation of our questioned beliefs as we move through the year, learning and investigating together.
For every single month-long topic, we’ll have a group webinar call where you will watch a video slide presentation before we begin the month of how this topic has been approached by others doing The Work, including Katie. All video orientations to each month will be released before our month together begins and you can watch it on your own time or join live and ask questions.
MONTH 1: Introduction to The Work and Abiding Orientation. We learn about the Judge Your Neighbor worksheet and about starting from the beginning. We start with stressful stories right in front of us, and begin with The Work.
Reading for Month 1: intro and chapter 1 Basic principles.
MONTH 2: What do I Complain About? We continue covering the Basics of Inquiry this month. And we go through the exercise of looking at what we complain about from the mundane to the deeply troubling, and take it to inquiry without feeling guilty for complaining.
Reading for Month 3: chapters 3 and 4 up to “the baby shouldn’t scream” (pg 59) Dialogues. Couples and Family Life.
Reading for Month 4: complete chapter 4 Dialogues. Couples and Family Life.
Reading for Month 5: chapter 5 Deepening Inquiry.
Reading for Month 6: chapter 6 On Work and Money.
Reading for Month 7: chapters 7 and 8 Self-judgements. TW with children.
MONTH 8: Living Turnarounds – What do you notice you want in life? What do you find scary about moving towards these dreams? An interesting look at what we believe should happen, for happiness…and finding freedom to take action more openly and freely to pursue joyfully, or not pursue. Everyone finds their living turnarounds through their own work, already underway.
Reading for Month 8: chapters 9 and 10 Underlying beliefs. Any thought or situation.
MONTH 12: Graduation! And optionally prepare to begin again in January. SUMMER CAMP FOR THE MIND! A blitz of daily inquiry open to everyone from all over the world who wants access to time for inquiry, with others. We do The Work daily, a different time for every time zone. Optional daily inquiry jam during months 11 and 12.
Here’s the full list of offerings included with Abiding.
*Zoom calls (Tuesdays 8:30 am PT, Wednesdays 2 pm, Thursdays 5 pm) Anyone enrolled in YOI is invited to attend any scheduled telesession. There are five 6- week courses to choose from during the year.
*Monthly Video (each month, you’ll join a webinar to begin the month (all webinars will be recorded). These webinars will address our topic for The Work, and always include explorations of Best Practices in The Work in our lives. We’ll look at the Principles for Facilitators, the Code of Ethics, and identify what gets in the way of holding these.
*Partnering In The Work Everyone in Abiding is invited to join a monthly partner work with other participants. You may choose to partner only once a month or partner in depth. A beautiful place for connecting with others to inquire and share at the most honest level. For this deep immersion in partner work, you schedule with your partner independently. You will have a different partner every month, for 12 months.
*Private Forum on Slack for Abiding only. We will use Slack as our forum for all course communications. All our recordings, shares, follow-ups, worksheets, photos, and videos on The Work are kept all year, and beyond. You will be able to download the little app on your phone, and on your computer, without it interfering with any of your other online work. Password protected and private. A fantastic way to take Abiding on the go and have access to everyone in the community. Training will be provided during Orientation on how to very simply access and set yourself up in our forum.
About me and what I do
BJ, you have something simple and elegant and deeply powerful to offer. The way in which you sit with people is kind, caring and brave. Having you as a partner on any journey is a gift I would recommend anyone give to themself.
– SM, Minneapolis MN
“I so celebrate the deep presence, sensitivity and care with which BJ moves in the world. Through a profound sensing, listening, and speaking to the underlying truth of the moment, she offers a rare form of support to people’s realization and development. Her way of being helps reveal the wonder and beauty all around us: in the world, in each individual, and in each moment. BJ’s presence is a gift which she gives generously.” – KS, Portland OR
To register visit this link and scroll to the payment options at the end of the page (you do not need to use paypal, you may use any card): workwithgrace.com/year-of-inquiry.
Anywhere! From your device or personal computer.
$3200 for YOI FULL PROGRAM paid in full by September 1st, 2017
OR $285 per month for 12 months.
YOI FULL PROGRAM includes access to all TeleSessions, monthly webinars, two Seattle retreats, solo sessions, Summer Camp for The Mind 2018, in-person monthly optional Living Turnarounds group. Anyone who enrolled in these programs separately would pay over $4000. Being a part of YOI brings you a huge discount for ongoing, connected inquiry with a lovely community of people for a whole year.
YOI – TELESESSION LEVEL (no in-person events and primary connection is via TeleSessions and Webinars) $2175 or $197 per month starting September 2017.
Repeaters $1800 by Sept 1st.or $165 per month. Telesession folks have one 9-1-1 solo session with Grace included, to schedule at your own convenience during the year, if you need individual support.
Retreats individually = $450 per retreat tuition. Anyone who has opted out of retreats can change their mind and attend if there is room and they register to hold a spot. YOI alumni always get $100 gift off of retreat fees for life.
In-Person Monthly Deep Divers Living Turnarounds Group = Normal fee is $65 per month, but current YOI members who sign up for FULL program who want a spot can attend at no extra cost. It is fully covered in their YOI FULL tuition for the year. (YOI Telesession Level members please also ask about attending—we’d love to have you if you’re interested and your fee is $35).
YOI members are invited to attend 8 week telecourses or other offerings with Grace during the year on special topics that are open to the public.
LOW RISK offer: Change Happens. You may cancel at the end of sixty days with the following conditions:
a) FULL PROGRAM with EVERYTHING INCLUDED: if you made full payment if you choose to withdraw during September or October you will only pay $100 per month participation. If you decide in the first 30 days it’s not for you…you will receive all but $100 back as a refund. If you decide after September but within 60 days it’s not for you…you will receive all but $200 back as a refund. If you participate in the autumn retreat, the fee for the retreat is $450 and is not a part of the refund policy. We hope this gives you ample time to give it a chance as a practice, and have found people are usually clear with this much space and time to make their decision. On November 1st you make a commitment (it’s difficult to fill your spot).
We ask that you make a commitment to the full year on November 1st.